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How to Fix Anger: 14 Tips on Anger Management

Have you ever noticed how angry you can get sometimes? Anger is such a normal human emotion, but we have to make sure we handle it right. When we don’t, anger can cause all kinds of trouble in our lives and relationships.

The thing is, anger itself is not the problem. It’s our unhealthy ways of dealing with it that cause the issues. So we have put together some insights and tips on anger management and avoid letting it control you. 

1. Recognize the signs of anger in yourself

The first step before you apply anger management techniques is awareness of the signs that you’re getting angry. Some common signs include:

  • Rising temperature and heart rate -Your body is preparing to fight or flee. As your anger intensifies, your heart will beat faster and you may feel physically warm.
  • Clenched fists or jaw -Your muscles tense up as a defense mechanism. This is a sign that your anger is heightening.
  • Racing or intrusive thoughts– You start thinking angry, hostile thoughts about the person or situation making you angry. Your mind races with angry thoughts and criticisms.

‘Am I being unreasonable?’ Ask yourself if your anger seems justified or if there are facts you’re missing. Often our anger obscures the full picture.

2. Take a time out

Taking a break can help you regain perspective and calm down. Remove yourself from the situation until you cool off. Do some deep breathing, go for a walk, or engage in a light exercise like yoga.

3. Practice relaxation techniques

Use relaxation techniques and anger management therapy like meditation, mindfulness, or progressive muscle relaxation. Releasing tension and stress helps bring your anger levels down.

4. Communicate openly (once calm)

Express how you’re feeling using “I” statements and avoid accusations. Talk about the underlying issues fueling the conflict and work together on a solution.

5. Forgive and move on

Let go of anger-provoking grievances and forgive the other person. Holding onto anger and resentment only hurts you in the end. Make the choice to move on from the conflict.

6. Make anger a non-emergency

Try not to jump to anger as your main emotional response. Remind yourself that anger is a secondary emotion. Look for the primary emotions underneath to better understand the root causes of your anger. With practice and patience, you can learn to manage your angry impulses and reactions. Staying calm and knowing how to control your emotions is a lifelong discipline. But with time and commitment, you can fix anger.

7. Challenge angry thoughts

Try to examine the thoughts fueling your anger. Look for evidence that contradicts irrational thoughts. Replace them with more constructive ones. This can help diffuse your anger.

Also Read: Thought Exercises to Improve Your Mental Health

8. Take care of yourself

Exercise, eat healthy, engage in hobbies, and engage in relaxing activities. Taking good care of yourself will make you better equipped to handle anger-provoking situations. Too much stress or fatigue also increases anger vulnerability.

9. Use humor

Incorporating humor and lightness can help defuse anger. A little laughter can go a long way toward changing your mindset from anger to calmness.

10. Set consequences

If there are certain triggers that you know anger you, set clear rules for yourself about the level of anger that is unacceptable. Then enforce consistent consequences when those rules are broken. This can help reframe your reaction.

11. Stay flexible

While setting limits is good, do not take an absolutist view of rules. Be willing to bend them when extenuating circumstances dictate. Life is messy, so your ways to get rid of anger should be flexible too.

12. Practice mindfulness

Spend time each day focused on your breathing and the present moment. This can help reduce angry, vengeful thoughts. When angry feelings arise, embrace them with mindfulness and they will fade more quickly.

Also Read: The Maslow Hierarchy of Needs

13. Seek professional help if needed

If you are having trouble controlling your anger, consider seeing a counselor or therapist. They can provide targeted advice and tools for improving your anger management in a structured way.

14. Be patient and give it time

Learning to manage angry feelings is a process. Be patient with yourself and know that it can take time and conscious effort. With regular practice of these tips, anger can become something you observe and accept rather than act impulsively.

In the end, remember that you always have a choice in how you respond to anger-provoking situations. You can choose to respond with anger or respond with awareness and composure. With regular anger management skills and the practice of mindfulness, patience, compassion and a refusal to be controlled by anger, you will cease being a victim of angry impulses and become the author of your thoughts and responses.


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